The ageing process is not something we usually pick up on our daily lives. Loved ones that we see every day seem to never age, while those we haven’t seen in a long time seem to have done so over night. However, when you see early photos of your parents, the difference is very clear.
WHEN WE ARE OLD, WHO DO WE DEPEND ON ?
Have your own abode.
No matter what, do not lose it.
If you have an old companion, keep each other good company.
Watch your health while it is still good Maintain a positive outlook and you will be happy.
Now, when our health is still good, Our mind still clear.
But on who can we depend on in our old age ?
We will have to analyse
Accept
this in various stages.
1st Stage :
Just after retirement, between 60 to 70 yrs old,
Our health will still be comparatively good
So too our financial means.
Eat moderately while we have the means
At times, wear what we fancy
Those who like it, have some fun.
Do not be hard on ourself
Our days are numbered, so grasp every opportunity
Have enough savings ! Keep the house !
Make arrangements for the days ahead or retreat to a peaceful and quiet place.
If the kids are well off, it is their business ….
If the kids are loving, they have good traits ….
We need not decline financial help from our kids
Nor decline their respect.
But we should remain independent Live our own life well.
2nd Stage :
If no mishap and illness strikes after we are 70,
We will still be able to take care of ourselves.
Not a major problem.
However, we must realise we are really getting old
Gradually, our mind and body will give away
Our reflexes will slow down with time …
We will have to eat slowly, to avoid choking.
We will have to walk slowly, to avoid falls.
We can no longer rely on someone, we have to look after ourselves!
Do not meddle any more or try to control the kids!
Some even interfere and try to control the kids lives!
Some even interfere with the third generation !!!
We have devoted our entire life, It is time for us to be a little selfish …..
And take hold of ourselves. Life comes in a full circle.
Keep ourselves busy in whatever we love to do ….
Try to maintain good health for as long as possible.
Give ourselves more opportunities to take control of our own life …..
We lead an easier life when we do not have to solicit help from others …..
3rd Stage:
Our health begins to fail ….
We have to request help from others ….
We have to be mentally prepared for it.
The majority of us cannot escape this hurdle.
We have to prepare ourselves, emotionally, to accept that :-
In life, living and ageing, sickness and death are milestones
we have to encounter.
This is the final stage in life ….. Nothing to fear !
Be prepared for it in advance and you will not be too depressed.
Either check into a private nursing home … Or an old folks home ….
Depending on affordability, of course.
There must be a way out ….
The idea is not to add to the kids’ burden, emotionally,
Increase their chores their financial commitments.
Try your best to overcome –
What hardship our generation have not endured ?
What disasters we have not experienced ?
Trust ourselves to take life’s last lap in our stride.
4th Stage:
Our mind is still clear,
But when our quality of life has deteriorated drastically ..
We must be courageous enough to face death!
WHEN WE ARE OLD, WHO DO WE DEPEND ON ?
Ourselves, Ourselves, Only Ourselves !
